Best decision I've heard all evening.

Mark

*hugs*


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So, this just arrived from the guy I'm trying to avoid.
What would you do?

Dropbox him the data?

Mark

There's 14GB of it.

Oh. (8+/

Mark

Can you not just drop it off to him on the way to doing something else?
I'm sure you can be professional about it if you try and limit your exposure to him.
I realise it's not the best of situations, but once it's done there's likely no other time you'll need to be in his presence again.

How about leaving the data with a mutual 3rd party friend to pass it on to him?

Mark

You can buy a 16gb usb sick for about a fiver. Might be worth getting one, copying the data over and popping it through his letter box.

That way you don't have to interact.

Just a thought... Hope it helps.

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Part of me is thinking that, well, he took away something I loved and this would be instant retribution. Yes, I could be that petty.
And the there's the part of me that thinks that might be a [LIFTED] thing to do.

How tiring my son's second birthday party is going to be tomorrow.

It is petty.
I understand the reasoning behind doing that, but to be honest the person you loved didn't love you back, so there was always going to be someone else for them at some point, it just so happens that you know them too.
It sucks, for sure, but the situation isn't really of his making - is it?
Is it really fair for you to take your frustrations out on him?
Is it really fair on yourself to be spending time dwelling on getting whatever sort of minor retribution back on someone else when you really could (should?) be trying to move on from the place of hurt?

Mark

Copy data to usb stick & give it to his other half when you see her at work.
He's probably not aware about the situation between you and the girl so he's just trying to get on with her mates.

I'd have to echo the thoughts of the Wise Egg.

What goes/went on between you and your now friend is between the two of you, it's not really anything to do with him. He wasn't part of it and there's nothing he can do about it either way. If you treat him badly, the overall effect will probably be you'll alienate her - because she'll more than likely hear about it and she WILL take 'his side'. I assume you don't want to do that.

If you don't feel like being friendly with him, that's fine. You're under no obligation to. There are people I am friends with whose other halves I tolerate at best. But be civil and be polite and if you would normally do someone that kind of favour, do it and then forget about it.

If you try to fight what's happened, you'll only lose out and feel even worse. Don't do that to yourself.

Jon

Well, I kind of feel like he's taken something away from me.
Of course she's taken his side - she chose a relationship with him, not me.
And yes, I've alienated her because I needed to protect myself; I'm not someone who can pretend they're not hurt, and I don't want to hear from the woman I'm into how wonderful her life is while I'm feeling like my strings have been cut.
The announcement that they were an item came right out of left field and caught me totally unawares.



I'm not really fighting anything - I've removed myself from being around them as much as possible. Nothing I can say, or do, will change the fact they're together. They've been together since Easter, and yes, it's still clearly affecting me.

I'll send a short, to the point message saying that if he gets a 16GB USB stick to me at work, I'll post it back to him.

Thinking about it, and I know that I suggested the usb stick, you could always copy the data to dvd. Four discs would cost next to nothing, (I've always got a couple of dozen lying around, just in case) and that would allow you to bring this unfortunate period a step closer to being in the past, where it belongs.

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